Personality test time! TETHYS

I don't actually think they got Tethys very well with this (or maybe I didn't answer the questions about her accurately) but nevertheless - here is this snapshot:

Portrait of an Extroverted Feeling Child (EFJ)

EFJ Traits
Friendly and outgoing
Very sensitive and in tune with others' feelings
They become very upset by conflict
Upbeat and enthusiastic
They are perfectionists, and can be very hard on themselves
Enjoy people, and need a lot of interaction with others
Dislike being alone
They love to please people, and may go to great lengths for their approval
Big talkers
Show a desire to take care of others
They usually need a lot of physical affection
Enjoy being the center of attention
Thrive on praise, and can be crushed by criticism
Active and energetic
They usually enjoy school
They're independent and want to do things for themselves
They prefer to lead rather than follow
They are decisive and authoritative

Potential Strengths
They have kind, sweet and open natures
They make friends easily, and are usually popular
They are structured and organized, although they may or may not be very neat
They are usually dependable and hard working
They are good at making plans and usually follow through on them
They will respect and follow rules if they are clearly defined and consistently enforced
They are usually well-mannered and well-behaved children, probably because they crave social approval
They can read other people very well, and know how to get on their good sides
They are charming and fun

Potential Weaknesses
Their intense and passionate feelings make them hyper-sensitive
They're so interested in pleasing others that they might do things that they don't really want to do
They may be overly loud and excitable
They want to please others so much that they will lie or exaggerate to say something that they think someone wants to hear
Cannot take criticism at all without becoming very upset
Can be controlling and manipulative
They may tend to make decisions too quickly, without understanding all of the facts
They tend to get in the middle of other people's problems
They need to talk a lot about their feelings in order to get them into perspective
They are uncomfortable with change and do not usually adapt well to new situations

EFJ Learning Style
EFJ children usually enjoy going to school, because it meets many of their natural needs. They always find people to interact with at school and they enjoy the structured environment. They are usually responsible and hard working students, although their interest in being social may cause them to be easily distracted in the classroom.

An EFJ's need to constantly interact with others makes it difficult for them to sit quietly and do a project on their own. They greatly prefer group projects, and usually do better when they can talk through their ideas and tasks out loud with others. If an EFJ is allowed to work with a friend rather than working alone, he or she will almost always be happier and more productive.

EFJs have a strong need for harmony and are quickly unsettled by conflict. They need to feel that their teacher likes them in order to be able to function well in a given class. If the child and teacher have not formed a bond, the EFJ child may assume that the teacher does not like them. A teacher should take a few extra moments to get to know the EFJ child, and let the child know that they are glad to have them in their class.

EFJs are most comfortable when the rules and expectations are spelled out clearly. Before they can complete any task or assignment, they will want to have a plan. If the task is not already planned out, they need to have the rules and goals clearly defined so that they can create a plan.

EFJ Special Needs
Finding a way to discipline an EFJ child without crushing their spirit will be a difficult task for many parents. EFJ children are hyper-sensitive to criticism, and can be completely disabled by punishment. Parents can diminish the need to punish their EFJ children by clearly defining the rules and expectations for the child's behavior. Rules should be enforced consistently and kindly. If discipline is required, be sure to let them know what rule they have broken, and that you still love them.

Parents and teachers of EFJ children should give them positive feedback as often as possible. Some Thinking adults often do not express love or admiration. They believe that their kids know how they feel, so it's not necessary to express themselves over and over again. Feeling children need to hear that they are appreciated and admired. If an adult doesn't give a Feeling child any feedback, this often turns into negative feedback in the Feeling child's mind.

EFJ children feel things intensely and passionately. They will carry this trait with them throughout their lives. It's important that they're not made to feel guilty or foolish for having such strong feelings. Some well-meaning parents might not want their children to have such emotional reactions to situations, and may try to downplay their children's feelings. That is a mistake. EFJ children will grow into EFJ adults, and nothing will change that. However, the EFJ's parents will influence the child's general happiness and effectiveness throughout their lives. Parents and adults of influence should encourage their EFJ children to share their feelings, listen to them when they do, and when at all possible they should validate the EFJ's feelings. If you cannot relate to the child's feelings themselves, you can at least validate their right to their own feelings.

EFJs love to be socially active and need to feel part of a community. They do well in group activities and thrive on opportunities to help others. The EFJ's commitment to their social group is one of the strongest gifts they will have to offer in their lives; whatever social group they are raised to be part of is likely where they will dedicate much of their effort throughout their lives. Therefore encouragement of healthy social group involvement is very important to the future health of the EFJ. They often find satisfaction from church membership, community volunteer work, girls scouts or boy scouts; that sort of thing. At school, team sports are a great idea, as are academic or social clubs.

EFJs are uncomfortable with change, and will probably approach an unknown situation with caution and reserve. Parents and caregivers should give their EFJ time to adjust to the idea rather than pushing them. Helping the EFJ child to see the new situation within the context of something that the EFJ has already experienced will help them adjust.

The "Missing" Letter
Adult personality types contain four letters, while for kids aged 7-12 we use three letter types. What happened to the missing letter? It's there, we just can't usually determine what it is until after a child is in their teen years. Sometimes it becomes apparent when they are around thirteen years old, sometimes as late as eighteen years old. EFJ kids will grow up to be either ESFJ "Caregivers" or ENFJ "Givers". At this stage in their development, it's not obvious whether they complement their Feeling function with Intuition or Sensing. You may have a sense which one the EFJ prefers, but we often have to wait until a person is well into their teens before we can determine their adult personality type.